What’s better than advice from someone who knows nothing about being a real person? Nothing you say? Perfect, because here it is:
I’m not giving you a bucket list, or a listicle about how to make the most of college because what the hell do I know about your life. Instead I’ll distill my entire college career into one golden nugget that you can take or leave. (Honestly this post is mostly something I need to do for myself, if someone else benefits from it than even better!)
Drum roll…. here it is…
Yup, that’s it. Ok, ok I’ll explain what I mean.
I spent way way way too long and tried way way way too hard to make other people happy, proud, like me, care about me, think I’m smart/funny/cool and as a result I wasted too much time not trying to make myself happy, proud and awesome.
You might be thinking “hey there’s nothing wrong with making other people happy” - yes, this is true in principle. But hear me out:
When making others happy is your first and foremost goal, you put aside the things that make you happy and as a result you aren’t the best you can be, which means you can’t truly make others as happy.
Doing You is still hard work. It still takes sacrifice it still takes blood, sweat, and tears and it’s not being selfish, it’s just being you.
Here’s an example:
I did a lot of clubs my first two and half years of college. I spread myself way too thin, but I still never felt like I was doing enough, I was never happy or satisifed. I never had time for myself, and I didn’t even have time to do the best job I could and as a result nothing was very fulfilling.
But then, over the summer I started a blog that I loved and I devoted a lot of time to that and (mostly) just that. It showed and I learned so much from it because I really loved it. I quit a lot of the clubs I wasn’t passionate about and as a result I was able to leverage my blogging experience into a new job that I can’t wait to start at a company I love.
I have more free time now to actually spend with friends and be a goof and run and cook and take care of myself and take care of others. I’m really happy and I’m a better friend, daughter and sister as a result. I put my own priorities first instead of what I thought I was “supposed” to be doing.
I stopped listening to everyone else’s advice and started following my own gut.
So there it is, stop listening to stupid advice and just be you and enjoy that and enjoy your life whatever you want it to be.
Awards are dumb, and no one cares about them or will remember them anyways. Do what brings you joy even if others don’t get it.